Exploring Grief

As a staff member at Westbrook Community Church, I have the privilege of praying for the requests that many in our community send in.  I want to talk about something we all face and walk through in our lives.  It is something that I’ve noticed many different people in our community are experiencing or have experienced recently.  We have all experienced loss, pain, suffering, sorrow and therefore grief.  CS Lewis describes these things in his book A Grief Observed.

“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow.  Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.  It needs not a map but a history…  Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape.”

In order to truly walk through that valley of grief, we must take time to self-reflect.  If we don’t truly take time to embrace and understand what we are going through, how can we possibly go through it?  And self-reflection is a process, in and of itself.  One through which the pieces we need, to walk through the grieving process, are revealed.

I also want to acknowledge that there aren’t always answers in or at the end of these processes.  Lewis also had this to say regarding the grieving process…

“When I lay all of my questions before God I get no answer.  But a rather special sort of ‘no answer’.  It is not a locked door.  It is more like a silent, certainly not uncompassionate, gaze.  As though He shook His head not in refusal but waiving the question.  Like, ‘Peace, child; you don’t understand.’”

Our service this coming week is going to be filled with musical worship…but worship that asks us reflect, remember, engage and then focus on Christ.  I encourage you to take time this week to begin to understand what grief(s) you need to begin or continue processing, through your relationship with Christ.