Distracted

Earlier this week I had a lunch date with my favorite little man.  Over our five dollar DQ lunch I entered the world of preschool.  I heard who was kind, who wasn’t, and who was out sick.  I learned what plants were growing and which ones were not.  I kept listening and learning and loving every moment of it.  Every moment – from the stories to the tone of his voice to the expression on his face! As we moved on to our ice cream sundaes,  I took a look at those who were lucky enough to share this lunch space with us.  What I saw made me sad.  I saw a room full of people not having lunch together.  I saw children with food in hand and eyes glued to the television bolted to the wall with the latest childrens show playing. I saw parents and grandparents with eyes glued to little screens.  People sharing space but not sharing lives.  People missing the moments right in front of them for the ones online.   So many of us are parenting distracted.  We are listening with one ear because the other is straining to hear the “ding” of a new text, email, snap or call.  We will easily put those in front of us on hold to answer or look up “just one thing”.  When we do this we are telling those around us, particularly our children that they are not as important as whatever is on the other end of that screen.  Is that true?  Is it true that “liking” that pic or posting that new selfie is more important than the person standing in front of you?  Here’s the thing guys – that stuff, the online stuff, will be there later; your kids, friends, family they won’t.  Your children will only want to share the details of their life for so long – do you want to miss it?  I challenge you to have family dinners and make them technology free.  You will be amazed how much information is shared!  That doesn’t work for you?  Find a day and name it family day.  Family day or family time is a tech free time.  Use this time to connect.  I promise you will not regret it.  Friends, I am in no way doing this perfectly but as I sat across the table from that sweet boy in the land of cell phones and television, I know for one afternoon I was close.